Archetypes and Chocolate, Yay!

Hedgehog Fireman

I’ve always loved Halloween because it’s so much fun to try on different personas and express inner archetypes. You can be a fireman or Wonderwoman… It’s theater, it’s play, it’s silly fun, it’s being a version of yourself that you might not choose to express so overtly the other 364 days of the year. And of course, chocolate.

Wishing you a safe and delightful Halloween!


image from Biddy the Hedgehog I highly this site. It will make your heart smile!

Ring, Ring, Your Cultural Alarm is Calling!

As a Virginian, I’m following the news about Hannah Graham and Morgan Harrington, as well as other women who have gone missing. It appalls me that these crimes happen. I find it unacceptable that the universities who kicked Jesse Matthew out didn’t do more to interrupt his trajectory. But let’s take a moment to look at the societal messages that program and anchor attitudes.

Most people are aware that not all abuse involves hitting or murder. Some of it is subtle and pervasive. We see dumb blonde jokes on social media that of course aren’t really about blondness; they’re saying women are stupid. “What’s the matter, can’t you take a joke?” That’s a line right out of the verbal abuse handbook.

Right now Sprint is running an iPhone ad that shows a group of women in an inane conversation squealing so loudly that they shatter glass. And Verizon is deluging the airwaves with an iPhone ad that shows a whipped man shutting down his nagging, needy wife and trading her in for a new model. Oh wait, it’s a phone he’s exchanging, right? The 5 for the 6? Not. The subtext is heavy-handed enough to be right in your face. “The woman is there to steal your manhood,” says the ad. “If you want to feel like you’re in control of your life, replace her. She is a ‘thing,’ and an annoying one at that. So stick with Verizon. We feel your pain and we’re here to help resurrect your pride.”

I pray for a world in which we’re smart enough to recognize abusive behavior in its most subtle forms and interrupt it early. One on one, in relationships and marriages. In schools and educational settings. In cultural messages. A world in which anywhere it shows up, men and women join together to say, “we’re over that.” In which we teach our children that no one is an object. No one is a thing. We all matter. We all are worthy of respect, compassion, protection and justice. And we make choices not to assuage our secret shame, but based on better criteria.

Windy Autumn Morning

autumn Oct 18 2014

Brisk winds wishhh through the trees outside my window, causing the lighter boughs to dance and lifting loose leaves high into the moving air. As I open my door and step into the rustling sound and cool feel of it in my flannel nightgown, it occurs to me that autumn is all about the deep call to change and that’s why I love it so much. The call to be our wildest, most authentic and most beautiful selves. To be the people we were always meant to be. To be the people we already are deep inside.

The Rules

Please do not sit on Crocodile

“Don’t spit into the wind, mess around with Jim, cross the streams, or sit on a crocodile. Refrain from buying pigs in pokes, clothing made of plastic and food made of things you can’t pronounce. Do not walk under ladders or on other people’s pride. Avoid hurricanes, tornados and most reality TV. Don’t wear red to a bullfight, or go to a bullfight at all. Don’t forget to breathe and hug. Be brave and kind.”
-Kanta Bosniak

The Costume Box

Wedding Shoes Paloma pop hearts

I love all weddings, from classic and formal to rustic and casual and everything in between. And I’m always adding to my “costume chest” for theme weddings. In addition to my classic attire, I’ve been collecting (and creating) design elements and vestments inspired by Celtic, Indian, African, Hawaiian traditions, Hippie, Boho, Steampunk, and Gypsy themes. And of course, I love heart motifs. The newest addition to the costume collection: Allegria Pop Heart Maryjanes. If you have an idea for a theme wedding, I’ll be delighted to talk with you about creating your ceremony exactly as you envision it!

Celtic-Themed Weddings

Do you have your heart set on a Celtic-themed wedding? I’m (half Pennsylvania Dutch and the other half) Welsh and Scotch/Irish, so I’m all about it! We can incorporate a Celtic hand-wrap and blessing into the ceremony. I can wear my usual black and white ministerial vestments. Or, if you want everyone in plaid, I’m good to go! Call me and let’s get started planning the ceremony of your dreams. Wedding outfit Celtic

Partnership and the Pretty Dress

So, I’m trying something on and I overhear this young woman in the next dressing room. She’s saying to an older lady, “I love the dress, but I don’t know if my husband will let me wear it.” *Let* her?!?  And I’m thinking, “Honey, get the dress and get rid of the husband.”

When I write wedding scripts, I customize them to whatever the couple wants. But I tell them from the get-go, there’s one word I won’t put into a script, and that’s the word, “obey.”

When I went to make my purchase, the saleslady was weirded out too. She told me it was a pretty dress and not overly sexy or cheap-looking. “It’s supposed to be a partnership,” she said. “You come back soon, OK?” We smiled at one another, both feeling better. And I walked out into the breezy summer night with my treasures.

Intelligently Directed Self-Care

“Intelligently directed self-care is essential, as is intelligently directed service to others. Make yourself everything, and you miss out on the deepest joys of life. Make yourself nothing, and you become a tasty snack for the conscienceless.”
-Kanta Bosniak

Forgiveness & Accountability

Forgiving does not necessarily include choosing to associate with or make excuses for someone, or to remove the natural consequences of his or her actions. It may simply mean letting go. Letting go of the habit of replaying mental movies which keep rage fresh, and letting go of contempt, that notion that one is better or more valuable than the perpetrator of an offense. This is especially appropriate when the individual exhibits no remorse.

A person who happens to be further along the learning curve is not better or more worthy, just as a 5th grader is not more deserving of love than a toddler. He or she is just on a different part of the curve, a different timeframe. However, remove from that toddler or that 5th grader accountability, boundaries and the responsibility to respect others, imbue him or her with a sense of “specialness” and you create a monster. Enable an adult and you interfere with his soul growth and your own. Karma may not be circumvented. Because accountability is a lesson we must all learn and to play the long-suffering martyr doesn’t earn you cosmic brownie points. It just keeps you stuck.

One Heart, Many Arms!


People sometimes display surprise that I do what appears to be more than one job. Most of us are taught to believe we can only do one task. But think about it. We’re all so used to multi-tasking that we don’t even recognize that we’re doing… it. How many tasks do parents do? They nurture, love, provide moral guidance, sustenance and financial support, and much more.

Actors must master speech, dance, and vocal projection, use of the stage, acting for the big hall and for the camera (which are completely different skills!) memorization, study of the psychology of their characters, as well as how to tap in to their own emotional content, and again, much more.

Self-employed folks must fulfill all roles necessary to the smooth function of a business entity, which in a large organization are enacted by various departments headed by people with entirely different skillsets. If you work for yourself, you are responsible  to be your own expert in the visionary, strategic, procedural, and social aspects of the business.
We are all smarter and more multifaceted than our culture trains us to think we are! We are like the image of Durga, the Hindu goddess, reaching out in many directions, but all from one central defining essence.

As for me, It may seem that I do many things, but I really do *one* thing, I am a spiritual artist who likes to facilitate the HAPPY through various forms of expression. The arts of written and spoken word, visual art, and sacred celebrations. At the center of all my work is the Beauty that shines from within us all.

I invite you to check out (and like) the following pages. Thank you! :-)

Kanta Bosniak, Author   spiritual books & art, church and secular speaking
Kanta Bosniak Weddings   wedding ministry, fashion, books, and fun ideas

Kanta Bosniak Coaching and Guided Meditation   coaching for your abundant life

Kanta Bosniak Beauty & Style   publications and coaching that support women in claiming their inner beauty, confidence, and creative power.

Kanta Bosniak Surviving Cancer Books and Audiobooks book, guided imagery audiobooks, art

Kanta Bosniak Kids   audiobook for bedtime, upcoming books, and serious cuteness.

Minister of Art Art and Abundance Triggers by Kanta Bosniak on Etsy

Amazon Author Bookshelf

Durga image from Wikipedia