Personalized, Meaningful Ceremonies
Winner of WeddingWire Couples’ Choice Awards for 2014, as determined by reviews from past clients. It recognizes my business as amongst the top 5% of wedding professionals nationwide!
If you and your beloved desire a ceremony that reflects who you are as individuals and as a couple, I would like to help you make that a reality. Whether it’s just the two of you or you’re inviting five hundred of your closest friends, I’ll be happy to tailor the service to meet your needs.
NEW! Free with my wedding officiant services: your choice of one of six folk art marriage certificates!
Virginia’s certificate is very plain. I thought, “I could do better!” So, I did. These are art prints of original paintings on canvas. Commitment Ceremony Certificates, Vow Renewal, and Baby Blessing certificates are also available for ceremonies I officiate. I also have created a set of Marriage Certificates for same sex couples with signature lines for “partner” and “partner,” rather than “husband” and “wife.” I’m a folk artist and the certificates are in my colorful, folk art primitive style. I’ll sign and give you the Virginia one, of course. And if you like my versions, choose one! My gift to you.
“Not only did Kanta marry us with the perfectly spoken ceremony, but she created the most beautiful and unique marriage certificate for us to remember our special day every time I walk in the door!”
I love weddings! All weddings, from the more traditional ones to the more alternative, from fancy to rustic, from ballroom to woodsy. I am happy to incorporate elements in the ceremony from various cultural backgrounds and spiritual traditions, as well as match my attire to the theme of your wedding. Simple/ Elegant? Retro? Steampunk? Harry Potter? Boho/Hippie? Hawaiian? You name it. I’ll be happy to wear my black topper, gray wizard hat, brown derby, black & white jester hat or no hat at all. I’m happy to collaborate with you to create the ceremony of your dreams.
Featurette of a Danny & Lauren’s Steampunk Wedding with Irish and Chinese prayers woven in. http://vimeo.com/107289126
Kanta was great! We had our original officiant drop out just a few days before the wedding. We kept frantically searching for someone and luckily came across her. We explained our situation and had a long conversation over the phone so she could find out more about my husband and I. She was such a delight to have at our wedding and we couldn’t have asked for more.
“Rev. Bosniak was an absolute gift from God. She committed to conduct our service with only days notice and I know God sent her to officiate our wedding. She wrote the most beautiful story of us and put her whole heart into our wedding. Ten years from now I will want Kanta to officiate our vow renewal. She has a wonderful heart and poetic words.”
“Kanta’s service at my wedding was above and beyond anything that I ever expected. She got to know my now husband and I as individuals and as a couple. She learned “our story” and conveyed that warmly and playfully as we hoped it would be. She had a genuine interest in our love story and that gave us a great connection. Kanta is a woderful officiant. She made our wedding special to not only my husband and I, but for the guests at the ceremony. They became part of our lives by understanding our union more. By understanding how much we truly love eachother. I never expected such a meaningful service. Kanta will definitely make your ceremony a beautiful and life changing event.”
Kanta performed our ceremony and was spectacular to work with in preparing for the event. Ours was a small ceremony with just family so having the details right was important. She took the time to meet with us in advance, listen to our story and incorporated those details, event the tiniest of those details, into our wedding.
She did a wonderful job and we were very glad to have her play such an important and meaningful role in our very special day.
-Doug and Jamison
“Kanta was amazing to work with. She helped me when I was stressed to calm down and keep my center. It helped that she is so experienced and you can tell she loves what she is does! I would recommend her to anyone looking for a personalized wedding. We also wanted our wedding to be short and sweet. We had so many compliments from our guests and our parents we thoroughly impressed. Thank you for everything, Kanta!”
“From the beginning Rev. Bosniak was helpful, informative, kind and understanding. She answered every out of the blue question we had along the way, and even after the wedding. She went out of her way to meet up with us to get to know us so she could tailor our wedding to fit us as individuals and as a couple. And she hit everything on the nose. We had two officiants drop out on us before we found Kanta Bosniak and with how the ceremony turned out; it was for the best. She was always encouraging, positive, calm and very respectful to us, our family and friends. She truly went out of her way for our wedding and we are very grateful.”
“Kanta was very professional and responsive. The fact that she meets with the couple before the ceremony in order to make it more personalized was very meaningful to us. She is very reliable and more than willing to answer any questions you may have through the process. I would definitely recommend her services.”
“We were so pleased to have met Kanta and to have her marry us on our special day. She was accommodating to our schedule and made herself available to meet us when we were visiting in the area prior to the big day. She tailored the ceremony perfectly to our needs and desires and was even open to last minute ceremony changes that made the event all the more special and personal. We would highly recommend Kanta to all couples as you will be 100% pleased with the experience from start to ‘I do’!”
-Kacie and Devin
“Kanta is wonderful to work with. She takes time to get to know you as a couple and is willing to incorporate ideas for the ceremony that will make it meaningful to those involved. Our ceremony was unique and perfect because of her. I would highly recommend Kanta without reservation.”
“When you imagine an elopement, you think of a court house and a silently judgmental old man officiating your ‘wedding.’ An elopement preformed by Kanta is the exact opposite! She is warm and friendly. She even spent an hour with us learning about our story so she could personalize our elopement! I was floored by how much attention and time she put into our wedding when I was expecting someone who would just brush it under the rug! I am so grateful that we found her. Not only did she officiate, she provided a bouquet and a beautiful folk art marriage certificate. She is a one stop wonderful wedding shop! At one point, we had to change the time of the ceremony and she was completely agreeable and flexible. She did not mind waking up early to do a sunrise ceremony. That is about as dedicated and flexible as an officiant can come! I cannot thank her enough for everything she did for us! She made our wedding unique and special. I’m so happy she was our officiant and I would recommend her to anyone who wants an officiant who actually cares!”
“The ceremony was absolutely wonderful. When me and my now wife were looking for an officiant we stumbled onto Kanta’s business card at a local coffee shop. We looked her up, and I decided to give her a call. From our first interaction she was absolutely wonderful. From the beginning she was really invested in making our ceremony special. She helped us find a place that was just wonderful, and she went out of her way to make the whole process pleasant. Kanta met me and my now wife a week or so before the wedding to get to know us personally. She asked very good questions about the two of us, and really got to know us very well. We loved the level of attention we got from her. After our ceremony, which was really touching and personal, she sent us a book of her poetry that me and my wife have been reading before bed together.”
“Kanta thanks so much for creating a unique experience for us. We appreciate your time and creativity. Though we only met briefly you truly captured the spirit of our relationship in the ceremony. Thanks so much for your efforts.”
About the following comment by Katie : Our meeting was a half hour instead of the usual hour because we had such a short timeframe. We met at Starbucks the night before the wedding, a half hour before their closing time. It was a serendipitous and as Tim Gunn from Project Runway might say, a ”make it work moment!” And a beautiful one, too. Many thanks for her lovely words. <3
“I approached Kanta at my work the day before my wedding because I knew of her line of work and just wanted to make it official, not expecting to get such a heartwarming opportunity. She offered my fiance and I a small, sweet, beautiful, and personalized next day wedding ceremony at her own home that was absolutely perfect. We didn’t have many ideas about what we really wanted, but after a short meeting with us, she created a memorable ceremony that was everything we were looking for. Kanta was kind and open to our short notice avant-garde wedding. We couldn’t have asked for a more beautiful, heartwarming, sweet, and spontaneous day full of love. Kalven and I are both extremely grateful and would recommend Kanta to anyone that is getting married.”
“Kanta did a wonderful job with our ceremony! She took the time to speak with both the bride and the groom and personalized the ceremony to fit our needs. She was more than happy to work with us when we wanted to add in a hand fasting ceremony and found the perfect blessing. From the first email to then end of the ceremony we had a wonderful experience and would recommend Kanta to any friends getting married in the area in the future! Thanks Kanta!”
-Emily and Sidney
“Our wedding ceremony performed by Rev. Kanta Bosniak was truly the highlight of our wedding day. It was very important to us for the ceremony to be inclusive of the various spiritual views of our families while still being a true reflection of our own values. Prior to the wedding, Kanta carefully interviewed us to learn about who we are as individuals and also about our love story and then crafted the most beautiful ceremony. In addition, she had an air of peacefulness that calmed us on what could have been a very stressful day. The ceremony was so personalized and special that our guests thought we had written our own vows! Several guests commented that it was the most unique, special ceremony that they had ever witnessed. Kanta understood exactly what we wanted in our ceremony, and then completely exceeded our expectations. Thank you, Kanta, for making our day so very special!”
-Kat & Matthew
“We wanted a small, simple, just-the-two-of-us ceremony. Kanta met with us… showed wonderful warmth, empathy and understanding… and gave great feedback. She offered an excellent venue, and conducted a brief, pleasing and perfect tone-and-pitch ceremony. If you want to elope, and can work out the logistics, we highly recommend Kanta!”
-Joel & Tracy
“As a somewhat unconventional couple looking for a spiritual, but not religious, ceremony, we were so fortunate to find Kanta! She was wonderful to work with and took the time to learn about our personalities both individually and as a couple. She was able to suggest modern alternatives to some of the traditional ceremony elements that wouldn’t raise our grandparents’ eyebrows. We did most of our planning long-distance, but I was never worried since we had built up a rapport prior to the rehearsal and she was such a calming, helpful presence throughout the entire process. The ceremony that Kanta created was beautiful, really fit both of us, and all of our parents, family and friends had positive things to say about it!”
-Liz & James
“Kanta was such a pleasure to work with. She made our ceremony exactly what we wanted. When we couldn’t find the words to explain how we wanted something she was right there to interpret and help us find the beautiful pieces to our ceremony. We enjoyed every second of having her as out officiant. With the high stress that wedding planning brings, she was the one thing that we never had to worry about.”
-Stephany & Ron
“Kanta was fabulous to work with, listened to our wants and needs as a couple, worked with us to create the sort of ceremony we envisioned and yet added her own touch as well. Responded to all communications in a timely manner and always made herself available to speak with. Wonderful person and officiant and so glad that we had her for our wedding.”
“Our wedding couldn´t be any better if it weren´t for you. Thank you soooo much. Thank you for being patient with us when we weren’t ready to begin the ceremony and for guiding us through it. Thanks for taking the time to get to know us on a personal level so that you could properly conduct the ceremony in a way where the ceremony was for us. Really all my thank yous don´t come close to expressing how grateful I am that we choose you and remember we will always carry you in our heart and memories! Thank you, Rev. Kanta.
Love, Stephanie and Enrique Soto!”
Rev. Bosniak provided an invaluable service on our wedding day by conducting a ceremony that was personal, intimate, and genuine. Rev. Bosniak took the time to get to know us as a couple, and was able to articulate characteristics about us as a couple and as individuals, even when we couldn’t find the words ourselves. Because of her due diligence we were provided with a personalized ceremony that was exactly what we had hoped for. Rev. Bosniak was professional, open to our values, accepting, and non-judgmental. She was well prepared, on time, and very encouraging. Rev. Bosniak played a huge role in making our wedding day unforgettable.
-Donald & Whitney
Kanta was an excellent officiant who took the time to get to know us well in advance to our wedding date. She personalized the ceremony based on our personalities and made it an intimate experience between my wife and myself, although there were 100+ people in attendance. She was highly professional and flexible. I never had a single problem getting into contact with her. In the hectic week before the wedding, she called us and confirmed everything as opposed to us having to call her and make sure everything was in order. It made it one less thing we had to worry about. There is nothing bad to say about Kanta, she held a beautiful ceremony and was 100% professional and reliable. If you’re looking for a celebrant, look no further!
We had a wonderful experience with Rev. Bosniak at our recent wedding. She was extremely pleasant and cheerful, adding to our happy day. Her guidance and professionalism were much appreciated during the planning of the ceremony. She made fantastic suggestions based on her experiences that really proved to be worthwhile. She took the time to get to know us and created a ceremony that was personalized to our families, our desires, and our needs. Each member of our respective families complimented our choice on Rev. Bosniak as our officiant, and how she seemed to fit with our wedding perfectly. We truly feel like we have made a friend and hope that we will see her around town during other events that we may each be a part of. We are lucky to have picked her out of all the choices online
-Lauren & Brian
“Kanta was very personable. She wrote a beautiful ceremony for us including a Hawaiian Wedding Blessing for our Hawaiian themed wedding. She was very responsive. I was always able to get in contact with her for any questions. She was very flexible. We would recommend her to anyone.”
-Maegan & James
“We LOVED having Kanta as our wedding officiant! She really took good care of us and made time to get to know us. She met with us personally prior to the ceremony and rehearsal (a couple times) to get a better understanding of our relationship and who we are as individuals. She was also great in bringing together the crowd during the ceremony itself, no matter their background (we are a pretty diverse crowd) no one felt out of place or excluded. She made everyone feel very welcome and part of the celebration which was wonderful. We highly recommend her as a wedding minister. Happily married and very pleased with Kanta and our ceremony! ”
-Jacqueline & Jon
“I feel so pleased that we had Rev. Kanta to officiate our wedding. She accommodated our requests and was able to provide the unique ceremony that we wanted.”
“Rev. Kanta was absolutely wonderful. She took time to get to know who my husband and I are as people and as a couple. She did a beautiful job making our ceremony personal. I would highly recommend her to anyone looking for an officiant for their wedding.”
“We loved having Kanta as the officiate for my daughters wedding.”
“My wife and I were overjoyed having Kanta perform our ceremony. She took time to get to know us individually and as a couple and incorporated our personalities into our wedding service. She was there to help bring to life the details that make us who we are. Kanta felt more like a life long friend who was there to share our special day, than someone presiding over the event. We couldn’t be more pleased that we met Kanta! ”
-Jason and Jessica
Kanta was wonderful to squeeze us in for a last minute elopement session. Our actual wedding was hosted by a friend and we needed a legitimate officiant, and we needed one fast! She even prepared a special little ceremony and found some beautiful flowers for me. We can’t thank you enough for your flexibility and generosity!!
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“Kanta was an amazing officiant. So wonderful to work with! First of all, I called her on incredibly short notice asking if she was available to marry us. I spoke to her on a Tuesday, possibly Wednesday, and we were getting married on Sunday! Due to our work schedules my fiance, now husband, and I were unable to meet with Kanta in person so she did a conference call with us. We all hit it off immediately. She’s incredibly intuitive, and after speaking to us for just an hour or so crafted one of the most personal services I can recall. I’ve received a ton of compliments about how she just knew us and how her words fit us to a T! But that’s not all, it wasn’t until after I spoke with Kanta that my jittery nerves began to calm down about how our wedding was to proceed. Not only did she write this amazing service, she really helped to guide us with who goes where and when and I FINALLY felt like I had a clue on what our wedding ceremony was going to be like. Our service was interfaith, non-denominational most definitely, very loving, funny and left not a single dry eye in the house. You cannot go wrong with this wonderful lady handling your service!”
“Kanta was wonderful. She really took the time to get to know us beforehand and delivered a very sweet and personalized ceremony. Many of our guests commented on how beautiful it was, and we thought so too!”
-Tara and Kyle
“Kanta was the perfect choice for us on our wedding day. She was extremely accommodating for a quick planning period and was a big part of making our special day peaceful and stress-free. Kanta spoke with us over the phone to get to know our individual personalities as well as our relationship dynamic – with that knowledge she was able to craft a ceremony that felt personal and appropriate for us. She was very thoughtful in all decisions, including bringing our two children into the ceremony and giving them a special part in the service. Kanta created a service for us that reflected our own spiritual understandings while managing to keep our family of varying beliefs comfortable. We had a perfect day, and Kanta was a huge part of that. Thank you!”
-Amber and William
“PERFECT !! We planned our wedding ourselves and the only thing that we never second guessed for one second was choosing Kanta to be our Officiant. She is very genuine and simply a pleasure to be around. You can clearly see that she cares deeply in making your memory just perfect. She goes the extra mile and it just comes so natural for her. It was truly a privilege to have found her and you will feel the same for certain!”
“Kanta is a lovely lady with a big heart! She wrote the most beautifully perfect ceremony and really catered to our preferences. Her genuine and peaceful disposition are unmatched. She loves love and I couldn’t recommend her more!! ”
“Could not have asked for a more wonderful experience…very connected and attentive …a beautiful person & we feel blessed to have be joined together by her ”
Rev. Bosniak was one of the greatest people we had the pleasure to work with for our wedding. She was accommodating, professional and very comforting. She knew exactly what to do and it was a pleasure working with Kanta during our wedding planning process. While every other vendor was clearly all about business, talking to Kanta was always just about having the most beautiful wedding ceremony and it was always comforting. We were able to customize our traditional/spiritual wedding ceremony and we everything that we wanted was done beautifully. Thank you Kanta!!
and… <3 <3 <3 (Thanks so much, Jessika!)
Thank you again for everything. My wedding day was amazing. It was amazing working with you and I wish you the best! Thank you for the book of beautiful love poems
“Kanta did an excellent job for us and we couldn’t have been more pleased with our wedding ceremony. On short notice, she was very flexible and cooperative, and put together a program to perfectly meet our desires and expectations. She is a lovely woman, quiet and considerate of your personal requests, who will share her artistic and literary talent to make your event unique and special for you. She took time to get to know us without being too intrusive, so she was able to prepare a meaningful marriage eulogy incorporating the vows we prepared for ourselves. She dressed perfectly to fit our setting and our style, and she provided a beautiful colorful bouquet which added just the right touch of color to our simple black and white attire. The unique marriage certificate she provided will be framed and treasured as lovely original artwork as well as representation of our special day. If you are looking for someone to put a special touch on your event, we highly recommend Kanta as a very experienced and talented professional.”
-Shelly & Randy Irvine
Sundara and the sunny weather truly provided a beautiful canvas for our wedding. Your ceremony was lovely and put the finishing touches on our marriage. It was so well-written and the personal touches regarding how Kris and I met answers a lot of people’s questions. We are grateful for your effort, peaceful presence and for all the serenity that you brought.
Love, Cheers & Sunshine,
Paige & Kris
“Kanta was an absolute dream to work with–we really felt like we knew her through our phone calls and emails, even living in the Midwest during our entire wedding planning process! She does a fabulous job getting to know her couples and un…derstanding their story, and she really listened to what we wanted our ceremony to be like. Our wedding was beautiful because of her gorgeous ceremony, and I really don’t think we can ever thank her enough.”
-Megan and Rob
Megan & Rob’s Wedding Video, by Jarred Foresman: http://youtu.be/OP6sYyVgkRM
I really don’t think that there are words to describe just how amazingly fantabulous you are and how much we appreciate you for doing what you do. From our first conversation to the ceremony that you personalized to fit Jason and I, we could not have asked to find a better fit. Thank you for taking the time to personalize and make it about he and I as individuals and as a couple. You have helped make our union exactly what we feel o union should consist of! We are forever grateful!
<3 Traci and Jason
“Kanta is a superb officiant. I recognize my bias, but I have been to innumerable weddings and couldn’t have asked for better. Even working from a distance (for our destination wedding in Virginia) she was able to take the time and carefully create a beautiful, efficient and heartfelt synopsis of our love story without being overly wordy or boring the guests. It was a perfect length and the appropriate amount of personal to be shared with friends and family. We greatly appreciated how flexible she was as how easy she was to work with.”
Thank you so much, Kanta! It was better than I could have ever imagined! It feels so good to be married! Thank you for your huge part in making our special day so amazing!
I could write volumes as to how amazing Kanta is as a wedding officiant! She put together the perfect ceremony for my husband and I, it was EXACTLY what we wanted for our wedding. We were incredibly impressed at our first meeting with Kanta – she cared very deeply about getting to know us as a couple and tailoring our wedding ceremony to our beliefs. She always had perfect suggestions for our ceremony (which we loved), and really wrote a beautifully worded ceremony which made all of our guests feel special. Not only did she do a great job getting to know us during the first meeting, but she was very open, excited, and flexible to having our grandmother participate in our ceremony by writing and reading a special piece for our ceremony. We really felt like we got to know her so well! We’ve gained such a valuable friend from this experience.
Kanta was very easy to contact (whether by phone or email), and always reached out to us early to confirm details. Because of her, our wedding ceremony was beautiful, personal, and stress-free! I highly recommend Kanta as a wedding officiant. You will absolutely get the ceremony you’ve always wanted!
Choosing Kanta as our officiant was one of the best choices we made for our wedding day. As a couple who was returning to Blacksburg to get married we wanted to find an officiant who could create a truly memorable ceremony for us. We found Kanta and everything fell into place. She took the time to sit down with us on one of our wedding planning trips to the area and was genuinely interested in our love story. The ceremony that she wrote after speaking to us is something that we will cherish forever. Kanta was able to put our story into words in a beautiful way for our wedding guests. We highly recommend that if you are in search of an officiant in the New River valley area you choose Kanta. You won’t regret it!
I want to first say thanks to Kanta for making our ceremony one of the most memorable events in my life. Not only did she spend the time getting to know me and my bride through the interview process, telephone calls and emails but she was able to incorporate in our vows exactly what we feel about each other and our relationship. I would highly recommend her service for anyone that is looking to get married in the New River Valley/Roanoke area. I also want to say just how comfortable I felt working with her, and that she was very knowledgeable and able to help us put together exactly what we were looking for in our ceremony. Thanks Kanta!
Beautiful Wedding video by Visage X and Brandon Reese Photography
Read the cover article ”Kanta Bosniak: Celebrating Love in Many Ways” on page 12 of the Feb 2014 Natural Awakenings Magazine: http://issuu.com/nablueridge/docs/february_2014
Want to see more? I now have a special FB page just for Weddings! Wedding decor, fashion & style, and great ideas from Boho to Formalabulous!
“Still stuck on finding the perfect person for your I Do’s? Take a look at Kanta Bosniak Weddings! [on FB] Aside from being an Ordained Minister, Kanta has amazing personality and creativity to help make your ceremony unique and special. Check her out and give her a well deserved “like” while you are there!”
- Shannon Hunt Ainsley, Always and Forever Photo, Dublin, VA
“Kanta offers personalized, client-centered weddings of various themes including Celtic Handfast, Sand Ceremony, Hawaiian Spirituality and Leis Ceremony, Yoga influences, and more. She has a peaceful presence and is willing to go the extra mile to meet the needs of the marriage couple. She is a gifted interviewer and has excellent skills as a writer and public speaker. Kanta is experienced in bringing together diverse groups, making everyone feel included. She is adaptable, flexible and creative; for these reasons she is certainly the region’s leading wedding minister!”
Jim ‘Seamus Wynde Baldwin, (Bagpiper), Member and Band Manager, Seconde Wynde
The Rev. Kanta Bosniak and I recently worked together at a beautiful wedding at Rockwood Manor in Dublin, Virginia. She was very nice to work with, very professional, and was prompt in her ceremony with the wedding couple. I would highly reccomend Kanta!! AA++
-Michael Keyes, Photographic Dreams Wedding and Event Photography
Niche Weddings in the NRV: Authentic, Personal, and Meaningful
Rev. Kanta Bosniak
Alerted by jazzy marimba sound, I dug in my bag, found its source, and glanced at the North Carolina number as I touched the green icon. The young woman’s voice bubbled over with excitement. “I know this is a cliché, but my fiancé and I are ‘spiritual but not religious.’ We want a non-denominational wedding in natural setting and we heard that Floyd is a beautiful place to get married.”
In fact, the entire New River Valley has a lovely, gentle charm that lends itself to sweet and personally meaningful events. Keywords: personal and meaningful. The trend to client-centered, independent and niche is what’s happening.
This cultural phenomenon has influenced other aspects of our lives. With satellite, cable, and online entertainment, the three basic channels plus PBS have morphed into a myriad of choices. Now every individual can broadcast thoughts, images and ideas via YouTube and social media. Increasingly, the publishing industry has gone indy. Done are the days when “self-publishing” was less-than, as even established writers have chosen to shape and promote their own creations and big box stores compete with online outlets. Creative doors have opened for all of us.
And so it is with weddings. Engaged couples have more choices and they feel empowered to make those choices match their lives. In addition to the traditional church wedding many are opting for one that is non-denominational. They want to take the path less traveled, blaze their own path entirely, blend old traditions with new ones or include cross-cultural features that honor their beliefs and/or adopted spiritual paths.
For example, many couples incorporate the Celtic hand fast in their ceremony, because of Irish or Scottish heritage, or because of they find beauty and personal meaning (those words again!) in the ritual of literally “tying the knot.” This preference is so often-requested that I maintain close contact with the region’s top bagpipers so that couples who want the full-tilt experience can have their scone and eat it too.
As a wedding minister the task of personalizing and meaning-making begins with interviewing both bride and groom. Times may have changed, but it’s still the bride’s dream day, so I begin with her. How would she characterize the two of them? If they are two overlapping circles, where are the common qualities in the Venn diagram that is created? In a second conversation, I ask for input from both of them. What are their most important shared values? What does “spiritual” mean to them? What inspires them?
Sometimes couples follow slightly different paths from one another. I recently wrote a ceremony for the wedding of a Buddhist-oriented bride and a groom who resonates more with Hinduism.
Finding the language of common ground is especially important for weddings in which the couple’s spirituality differs from the more traditional roots of their extended families (and their families may differ from each other). It’s the couple’s day and the service must be authentic to them. That’s why they hired an interfaith minister, after all! At the same time, we all want the ceremony to invite, include, honor, and feel joyous for everyone attending.
Today’s couples may blend families as well as faiths. Ceremonies may include children from previous marriages. Sometimes weddings may formalize longstanding marriage-like relationships that have produced children. I know of a wedding a colleague officiated in which one of the couple’s grown sons (in his late thirties, I’m guessing, from pictures) escorted his mother down the aisle. I recently performed a wedding in which the couple had small children who were so precious as ring-bearers and flower girl that they (almost) stole the show.
While this couple may not typify the usual wedding couple in some ways, it did represent a trend I’ve noticed in with wedding couples that’s a bit different from past generational models. Yes, it’s the bride’s “dream day.” Their fiancés know this and let them have the pleasure of being the Wedding Princess: being in charge of the overall vision and working with the party planner or other folks who make it happen.
However, most often the groom that I work with has established a strong sense of personal identity and spiritual perspective. He knows who he is as an individual and as a partner. And though he may not have been dreaming of this day since childhood in quite the same way as has his beloved, it’s important to him that the language, style and meaning authentically reflect his deeply held values.
One final thought about the importance of personal meaning in wedding events. I love weddings! That’s why I’ve chosen to do what I do. I feel honored to serve you and look forward to helping you create your sacred and special event. Whether you choose a traditional church wedding or you wish to “tie the knot” in a garden setting, I want to help you make your “dream day” a reality, exactly as you envision it.