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Yes, But? “STOP IT!!!”

Thursday, May 17th, 2012

We say we want to be happy, we talk about happy, produce and consume products that promise happiness. Those of us who are on a conscious co-creation path are well aware of how important “happy” is in the creation process, so we care even more about ability to achieve and maintain mastery over our state.

To achieve this, we need to relegate the ego to a place far outside the moment-to-moment decision making process. We need to tell a different story to ourselves about life than the one the ego tells, which is that love, life, freedom, and joy are all dangerous. That God is vengeful and that we are not worthy to enjoy a happy life, dream though it may be. One of my favorite quotes about this mishegas- this crazythink-  is from “A Course in Miracles.”

“IV. Seeking and Finding T-12.IV.1. The ego is certain that love is dangerous, and this is always its central teaching. 2 It never puts it this way; on the contrary, everyone who believes that the ego is salvation seems to be intensely engaged in the search for love. 3 Yet the ego, though encouraging the search for love very actively, makes one proviso; do not find it. 4 Its dictates, then, can be summed up simply as: “Seek and do not find.” 5 This is the one promise the ego holds out to you, and the one promise it will keep. 6 For the ego pursues its goal with fanatic insistence, and its judgment, though severely impaired, is completely consistent.”

Telling yourself sad stories, “Yes, but” stories? As Bob Newhart’s hilarious ultra-brief therapist character “Dr. Switzer” said, “STOP IT!!!!”

Sanity can be habituated by training the subconscious mind to let go of its flawed programming with spiritual hypnotherapy, Huna techniques, deep affirmative prayer, meditation, practice of the Course exercises, and by a host of techniques I included in my book, “Abundance Triggers.” May you be happy, may you be free, may you tell yourself more resourceful stories!

Want a good laugh? Link to the “Stop it!” skit on YouTube:    http://youtu.be/Ow0lr63y4Mw

Sendak, Comebacks and Full Body Condoms

Tuesday, May 8th, 2012

I just saw a hilarious clip of Steven Colbert interviewing Maurice Sendak. Colbert tongue-in-cheek as usual, plays the supreme narcissist. Sendak, delightfully, plays himself. In response to a doltish query, Sendak says, “That’s a very interesting question. It’s just not interesting to me.”

While this sort of riposte may be neither conventional nor polite, it does not appear that these were highly held priorities for the author, and that’s one of the many reasons his books delighted and provoked the imagination. Besides, let’s face it, narcissists are terrorists and you can’t negotiate with terrorists!

I know a little something about narcissists, like most women who have ever dated.  I’ve seen them up close and personal, made a study of them, and now can spot one at a thousand paces. And I can tell you one thing for sure. These are not people who love themselves. They loathe themselves. For them, a happy person is intolerable and an infinitely attractive target. They want to feed and demolish and feed some more off the results of the demolition. So, when dealing with them, I advise a full-body energy condom. And if you have to be rude, do so. Because they will take your kindness for weakness and needlessly waste your time and energy.

The Sendak “It’s just not interesting to me” comeback reminded me of an event a little over a year ago.  I was at Kutztown University, an obviously happy person, giving a talk to a psychology class about my happy paintings with happy quotes on them. It was all too much for a staffer who had decided to sit in on my lecture. At the end, after the other people had come forward and spoken with me, he sidled up. I could feel the ick of his energy and I saw the inebriated look of a narcissist about to strike. Not unlike what I imagine the look of a wife-beater might be as he anticipates his pleasure. I wasn’t going to have any.

“I find the quotes confusing,” he said.

“You may find them confusing,” I said. “They are not confusing.”

He began again, “I’d like to give some criticism.”

“No thanks,” I smiled at him.

He stepped back, regrouped and tried again. “I think criticism is important and I want to tell you what I think about these paintings.”

“I’m not interested,” I said. “And now I have to pack up. Good-bye,” I said cheerfully and removed my attention completely.

I’ll leave you with a quote by another writer I admire, Erle Stanley Gardner, the author of the Perry Mason books.  About criticism, Mr. Gardner quipped, “It’s a damn fine book. You got something to say, write it on the back of a check!”

Desire, Deservingness & Leaping

Wednesday, March 7th, 2012

Change is creative, and creativity requires leaps of imagination. To do this, you have to shake off resistance. The resistance of the false ego is no match for your own God given drive to be yourSelf. When allowed to fully operate, this drive is unstoppable. It will take you where you want to go. To feel it and let it yourself pay attention to it is part of your “Becoming Process.”**

The Becoming Process is a natural one, which you do anyway, when you’re really in the flow. One of the most potent and dramatic stages is “Desire.” This stage is activated with “deservingness.” You have to not only desire the thing, state or experience, but think it’s good, right and in Divine Order for you to experience it. This fires desire up so much that it attains that level of fierceness that makes you leap through resistance gladly and with gusto.

I love this statement so much that I included it in my first book* in the section on “Desire and Deservingness”: “I am leaping, I am leaping, I am leaping through my resistance with all the fierceness of my deservingness.”

It’s a leap year. So, leap!

 

** “The Becoming Process: A New Paradigm for Life Change,” available on Amazon

* Surviving Cancer and Other Tough Stuff,” available on Amazon